In this fast paced demanding world where people have more than one role to fulfill, they often have to seek a delicate balance between career and family, their own needs and needs of others, public life and private life, inner- versus outer- world values and so on. There are many other concerns we have to deal with and people and situations that demand a piece of our time. This is the malady of the modern era, and it is addressed by Jon Kabat-Zinn, director of the Stress Reduction Clinic at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center, when he says in his book, ‘Wherever You Go, There You Are’, “A commitment to simplicity in the midst of this world is a delicate balancing act” (p.70)
How to deal with all of this? Renee suggests that you take on responsibilities in order to deal with the situation at hand. You need to be ready to make additional commitments, even when you have doubts. Stay calm and balanced. Try to give adequate attention to each of your duties demanding attention, but deal with them one at a time, the best you can. Meet the multiple challenges by drawing from all the resources available to you (you’ll discover some you didn’t know you had). Prepare to do more for your loved ones, and others too, even if this may result in initial setbacks to your palns and goals. Wherever possible, try to symplify your lifestyle by prioritizing first, and then get better organized so you can reduce the already reduced ‘to do’ list and hence your multi-tasking anxiety.
We tend to think that life is what happens after we get all of our work and other obligations out of the way. Unfortunately that never happens. We have to see the act of balancing all our obligations and demands as part of the process of life, and learn to take a certain amount of pleasure in handling them competently and meeting these challenges one after another.
Adapted from: Janina Renee ‘Practical problem solving and advice, Tarot, your everyday guide’ (2000), p.94
A WARRIOR DOES NOT KEEP COMPANY WITH THOSE WHO WISH TO HARM HIM
A warrior does not keep company with those who wish to harm him. Nor is he seen in the company of those who want to ‘console’ him.
He avoids anyone who is only by his side in the event of a defeat: these false friends want to prove that weakness is rewarded. They always bring him bad news. They always try to destroy the warrior’s confidence, all under the cloak of ‘solidarity’.
When they see him wounded, they dissolve in tears, but, in their heart of hearts, they are happy because the warrior has lost a battle. They do not understand that this is part of the fight.
The true companions of a warrior are beside him always, during the diffficult times and the easy times.
from: ‘Manual of the Warrior of Light’ by Paul Coelho
“To laugh often and much, to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children, to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends, to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others, to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch… to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded!” – Emerson