In this fast paced demanding world where people have more than one role to fulfill, they often have to seek a delicate balance between career and family, their own needs and needs of others, public life and private life, inner- versus outer- world values and so on. There are many other concerns we have to deal with and people and situations that demand a piece of our time. This is the malady of the modern era, and it is addressed by Jon Kabat-Zinn, director of the Stress Reduction Clinic at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center, when he says in his book, ‘Wherever You Go, There You Are’, “A commitment to simplicity in the midst of this world is a delicate balancing act” (p.70)
How to deal with all of this? Renee suggests that you take on responsibilities in order to deal with the situation at hand. You need to be ready to make additional commitments, even when you have doubts. Stay calm and balanced. Try to give adequate attention to each of your duties demanding attention, but deal with them one at a time, the best you can. Meet the multiple challenges by drawing from all the resources available to you (you’ll discover some you didn’t know you had). Prepare to do more for your loved ones, and others too, even if this may result in initial setbacks to your palns and goals. Wherever possible, try to symplify your lifestyle by prioritizing first, and then get better organized so you can reduce the already reduced ‘to do’ list and hence your multi-tasking anxiety.
We tend to think that life is what happens after we get all of our work and other obligations out of the way. Unfortunately that never happens. We have to see the act of balancing all our obligations and demands as part of the process of life, and learn to take a certain amount of pleasure in handling them competently and meeting these challenges one after another.
Adapted from: Janina Renee ‘Practical problem solving and advice, Tarot, your everyday guide’ (2000), p.94Advertisements