Weekly Words of Warrior Wisdom (W20)

Balancing Act

In this fast paced demanding world where people have more than one role to fulfill, they often have to seek a delicate balance between career and family, their own needs and needs of others, public life and private life, inner- versus outer- world values and so on. There are many other concerns we have to deal with and people and situations that demand a piece of our time. This is the malady of the modern era, and it is addressed by Jon Kabat-Zinn, director of the Stress Reduction Clinic at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center, when he says in his book, ‘Wherever You Go, There You Are’, “A commitment to simplicity in the midst of this world is a delicate balancing act” (p.70)

How to deal with all of this? Renee suggests that you take on responsibilities in order to deal with the situation at hand. You need to be ready to make additional commitments, even when you have doubts. Stay calm and balanced. Try to give adequate attention to each of your duties demanding attention, but deal with them one at a time, the best you can. Meet the multiple challenges by drawing from all the resources available to you (you’ll discover some you didn’t know you had). Prepare to do more for your loved ones, and others too, even if this may result in initial setbacks to your palns and goals. Wherever possible, try to symplify your lifestyle by prioritizing first, and then get better organized so you can reduce the already reduced ‘to do’ list and hence your multi-tasking anxiety.

We tend to think that life is what happens after we get all of our work and other obligations out of the way. Unfortunately that never happens. We have to see the act of balancing all our obligations and demands as part of the process of life, and learn to take a certain amount of pleasure in handling them competently and meeting these challenges one after another.

Adapted from: Janina Renee ‘Practical problem solving and advice, Tarot, your everyday guide’ (2000), p.94

Saying goodbye to Singapore: Cafe del Medway Party, the best party of the year!!

The pictures speak for themselves…but ok, these were some of the highlights:

– The paparazzi in the garden that morning (Miss van Dixyhorn in leopard skin!!);
– The Farewell songs created by Bela Anna, and very well sung we might add by the Dutch community in north-pole wear (in a temperature of 30 degrees celcius!);
– The slightly changed theme: From Mojito to Bokito, escaped Gorilla’s rule!!;
– Die Fledermaus opera in Vienna!!! Thx M&M, F&W!!;
– Only the fly people in the pool ;-);
– The super blasting sound system, the whole of Jurong could Karaoke along with Andre Hazes. (thx DJ Gary);
– Fab music by DJ Griffin;
– (Were the police sleeping?? ;-));
– Valentino risking his life and back by balancing the 3 meter high super-blast speakers on his shoulders and carrying these inside the house…thx!!.

It was fabulous!!! Thx all for being there for us…

What are we not supposed to think about?


“655,000 Iraqi civilians have died. Who are the terrorists?”
-Rosie O’Donnell from The View comparing U.S. activities with Islamic terrorism

Since Rosie O’Donnell has recently “got quit” from her job on The View (or rather, had her pre-existing plans for departure greatly accelerated) because of uttering this sentence, it is worth taking a second to explore the voracity of Rosie’s statement.

If we take the total confirmed attacks by Al Queda against the West (broadly understood) we have 5 acts of terrorism in total. The 1993 WTC Bombing which killed 6. The 2000 bombing of the U.S.S. Cole which killed 17. The September 11th attacks which killed 2974. The 2004 Madrid bombings which killed 191. And, lastly, the 2005 bombings in London, England which killed 52.

So, Al Qaeda has claimed a total of 3240 fatalities in the West.

Now America’s activities abroad are far too numerous to either delineate or to quantify, so, for simplicity’s sake, let’s limit it only to US involvement in the country of Iraq since the enactment of UN resolution 667 in 1990 up to the present.

The Gulf War and the economic sanctions imposed on Iraq throughout the 90s up until 2003 killed a total of approximately 1,000,000 (source). And, from 2003 up until the present, according to the best and most thorough statistical project undertaken the U.S. has killed approximately 651,000 in the Iraq War. […]

Heared on BBC world radio: Islamic scholar sees Breast Feeding as symbolic act which makes it right for men and women to work together

Source: BBC world radio/arabwomanprogressivevoice.blogspot.com

17 May 2007 […] So the latest Azhar fatwa, ingeniously thought of by the head of the Hadith section at the university who argues it’s based on a Prophet’s strong Hadith (saying), is trying to solve the problem that in this darn age men and women are spending time alone together at work when that is forbidden. The solution? Easy! The problem can be easily solved by having the woman nurse her colleague. Yep. Nurse him as in put her breast in his mouth. This way they become related through nursing and as such can be alone together without breaking any moral or religious codes. But they need to keep accurate records of who nursed whom so things don’t get mixed up. Once a man is nursed by a woman, she can take off her veil in front of him because now he’s “forbidden” to her.”

In the mean time the Egyptian scholar made his apology for what he calls a one time incident and an attempt to creative thinking.

The full blog comments:

For those of you who can read arabic, the original Fatwa: